If my number is above ‘X’, my future partner will think I’m a slut.
The truth? Your number really doesn’t matter. Partners care about your sexual health, your behavioural patterns and whether you’re a good lover.
What matters is the pattern and type of sex you have. Are you unfaithful? Do you sleep with everybody in a particular group of friends and then move on? Do you become easily sexually bored? Do you find sex a really difficult step when dating somebody? It’s the issues that lie behind the number, not the number itself, that counts.
Lesbians can’t get STDs.
If you’re sleeping with or have slept with a woman, you don’t have to worry about pregnancy, but you still have to use protection (a dental dam, in this case), and get yourself checked regularly. I still don’t believe how often I have to explain this.
Nobody finds people with glasses attractive.
Lies. Ask any man you like; the sexy-librarian fantasy exists for a reason. Two prime celebrity examples? Megan Fox and Evangeline Lilly, who become even more attractive when they go out bespectacled.
So if you’re going the glasses route and feeling a little insecure, take heart – guys still make passes at girls who wear glasses. I think they’d rather deal with cute spectacles than see you scrounge around for contact fluid.
Plus somebody might want to tell the people running the study that people take their glasses off in the bedroom so they won’t, you know, get smashed.
If one sexual partner tells me I’m no good at a particular act, it’s true for all my sexual partners.
Here’s the thing- all men aren’t the same, and it’s possible to learn. If criticism comes from multiple sexual partners (and the criticism isn’t harsh – seriously, you deserve better than low self-esteem in bed), don’t give up! Ask your partner to guide you in what makes them feel good, and look for tutorials elsewhere.
Having an STD automatically makes me un-dateable.
What it does mean is research on your part, and honesty with all future partners – BEFORE you get into the bedroom. Most STDs mean it’s still perfectly possible to have sex, provided you take precautions, but both of you need to be fully aware of all the facts before you go ahead.
If I have flaws, I’m not sexually attractive.
The key thing to remember here is that men, if they’re worth your time and sexuality, really, honestly do not care. You’re a bombshell even with flaws, and if you were absolutely perfect they’d probably collapse in an insecure heap. Celebrate yourself – flaws included.
If I was too drunk to consent, it wasn’t rape.
Taking pillow talk out of the bedroom, every Friday…