By Simone Milasas,
Dynamic Business Leader
You may have seen some questionable behavior that could be confronting in your workplace. Have you ever questioned whether it’s motivated by a narcissistic boss? Simone Milasas educates us on how to identify a narcissist boss and how to thrive in the situation.
Signs of narcissism
Leaders in the workplace can be conscious, unconscious, and anti-conscious. Conscious leaders allow the business or company freedom to grow because they have no fixed points of view. They’re always looking at the infinite possibilities for money, from any source.
Unconscious leaders are quite certain that they know the right way to run the business. However, they tend to be slow to respond when conditions change and can be left behind.
Anti-conscious leaders make everyone do what they want when they want them to do it and are constantly on everybody’s back about what they’re doing. They often display little empathy and have a sense of entitlement. A leader who has decided they are narcissistic would fall into the third category.
Everybody assumes that narcissists are self-serving and self-centered; that’s not what is actually occurring. As young children, most of them were intensely aware of everything going on around them. If they were raised in a family environment that was full of sadness, anger, and conflict it feels so overwhelming they totally shut out other people’s emotions and points of view. They then carry this attitude into adulthood.
Tools you can use
1. What if there were no problems?
In the Friday afternoon scenario above or any interaction with your boss, instead of looking at it as a problem, what if you started to look for possibilities? The minute you see something as a problem, all you can see are roadblocks and dead ends. You start going into resentment and upset over what you consider to be their unreasonable demands. Instead, start looking at possibilities. Here are some great questions to ask in such a situation: what would it take for this to be a possibility? Or what else can I create? Imagine if everything was about the possibility and nothing was about problems, would you get a whole lot more accomplished?
2. Never diminish yourself
When you are willing to truly value yourself and everything you know, all your capacities and skills this can be a source of intimidation to others. Intimidation does not have to be destructive, harsh, or overbearing. It is that place where you are totally and intensely present in the moment and will not diminish yourself no matter what’s going on. Intimidation does not allow anyone to use or take advantage of you. It always puts you in the driver’s seat. What energy would you have to be that you are not willing to be? If you do intimidation from a creative universe, you always invite others to be them, which is possibly one of the few ways to get past the barriers erected by someone on the narcissistic band.
3. Are you the fastest person you know?
If you naturally function at a really fast pace, but your co-workers don’t, it is possible that have you slowed yourself down to match them. What if you function at the speed you would truly like to function? Be willing to move as far and fast as you naturally like to and you will achieve something totally different to others in your business. You have to be willing to receive other people’s judgments but chances are, when you are super-fast, no one will even notice!
4. The other side of narcissism
The other side of narcissism is where someone decides they are never going to have their own self-awareness. As children, they are highly aware of everyone around them, but this capacity was most probably not acknowledged by their parents.
Ironically, they are willing to know what everyone else needs and will spend their entire life trying to fulfill their boss, mother, or father, however, their needs never seem to matter.
If you have been functioning from the other side of narcissism here’s a tool you can use. Ask, where am I in the computation? Where am I in the extrapolation of my life?
About Simone Milasas
Simone Milasas is an innovative business leader, author, and a leading Facilitator with Access Consciousness®️, a set of life-changing techniques and tools currently facilitated in more than 175 countries. A lady who knows how to be a woman, Simone joyfully sees the prospect of possibility and future in every choice she chooses.